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‘Big Issue Guilt’ and Why It’s Okay to Start Small

The world is a big scary place.

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Sometimes it feels like you have to carry all the problems in the world… Photo by Porapak Apichodilok on Pexels.com

 

Let’s be honest, there are a lot of things to feel worried, annoyed or stressed about at the moment, outside of the bubble of our own lives. Politicians are making some pretty dreadful decisions on our behalf, the planet’s falling to pieces and sometimes it feels like we’re taking a backwards step in our battle for equality and fair rights.

I know that’s a pretty negative way to start a blog post, but stick with me if you can.

I know that all the negative news stories and bad things happening around the world can be make us feel really, really bad. I’ve recently deleted the news app I had on my phone, because I found that scrolling through it every day just made me feel sad and overwhelmed. As soon as I deleted the app, however, I felt guilty. Shouldn’t I be taking an interest in world news? Shouldn’t I be educating myself as much as possible so that I can help people to make the world a better place?

Here lies the problem.

I call it ‘big issue guilt’ – that guilt you feel when you can’t single-handedly solve the huge problems that the world is facing. When you feel like you’re never doing enough.

You’re using metal straws and re-usable coffee cups. You buy eco-friendly cleaning products and none of your make-up is tested on animals. You adopted your pet cat from a rescue, rather than buying from a breeder. You avoid ‘fast fashion’ as much as you can within your tight budget. You celebrate LGBT authors and try hard to buy books with diverse characters at their heart. You vote in elections and don’t eat meat.

But somehow, it just doesn’t feel enough.

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You can’t fix climate change by using a metal water bottle.

So part of you starts to think, what’s the point? You get overwhelmed by ‘big issue guilt’ and your anxiety starts to spiral.

Sound familiar?

I’m hoping it’s not just me that feels this way! I am always trying to improve my awareness of the world’s issues and see what I can do to help. I am that person I described above, always making sure to vote, educate myself, and change my purchasing habits to try to help. But I quite often get paralysed by this fear and guilt that I can’t ever do enough. And no, I can’t fix climate change by myself or stop the beauty industry from testing on animals ever again. I can’t make politicians see the sense in allowing abortions or gay marriage, but I can do my part.

At the end of the day, all we can do is start small. If enough of us are making small changes to our day or speaking up now and then, it will all add up and, hopefully, start to change the minds of the people in charge, whose changes really matter!

It’s okay to start small. You can’t solve every huge world problem. Your anxiety is not going to thank you for trying. But you can…

  • Make eco-friendly and sustainable purchases where possible.
  • Go vegan, vegetarian or try meat-free Mondays.
  • When you go out for coffee, take a re-usable cup. Maybe even try a non-diary milk alternative.
  • Save up your money for a bit longer and buy from an ethical retailer, rather than a high street store.
  • Recycle what you can, when you can.
  • Eat your leftovers.
  • Sign petitions for things you really care about.
  • Vote in elections whenever you are able to.

If we all do the small things, it’ll all add up. Spending all your time feeling guilty is exhausting, and I promise you, you are doing enough as long as you are trying.

I hope this made sense! Do you feel the same way? Is there anything small that you do to try and help with a ‘big issue’?

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30 Before 30 - goals, dreams and aspirations

30 Before 30

I’m sure you’ve seen posts like this before – I know I have!
I used to roll my eyes at bucket lists, five year plans, ten year plans, and so on… I just thought that, seeing as life never really went to plan anyway, what was the point?!
But the more I’ve got into goal-setting over the past year, the more I have been thinking about where I want my life to be moving over the next few years. This has led me to reading quite a lot of blog posts that talk about a ’30 before 30′ list – simply, a list of thirty things you want to achieve or do before you hit that big 3-0. (I say ‘big’… I’m not sure that it is. But ask me again when I get there!)

I have really started to like the ideas of a 30 before 30 list, as a list of experiences, achievements and just general goals that I would like to achieve before I turn 30. For me, this has provided a good opportunity to sit down, reflect, and set goals. However, it has given me the same anxiety-inducing pressure that I have experienced before when trying to create a 5 or 10 year plan. My main inspiration for this post was a post written by the wonderful Zanna van Dijk, who as well as being the same age as me, is one of my favourite Youtubers/bloggers/fitness gurus. As I’m fast approaching 27, now seemed like a good time to take that inspiration and run with it.

So, without any further rambling, here are the thirty things I would like to do or achieve before my thirtieth birthday. Some are huge goals, some are tiny, niggling little wishes, but I would love to achieve them all…

  1. Go camping. (Me and Mr W have a tent and we’re ready to go, we just haven’t gotten round it to yet. I have been camping before, but not for many years!)
  2. Climb another mountain. (Earlier this year, we climbed Snowdon. It inspired me to keep hiking as much as possible.)
  3. Own a brand new, high quality mattress. For all that beautiful, quality sleep.
  4. Perform in a choir again. (This one should be ticked off pretty soon!)
  5. Pay off my credit card.
  6. Have a healthy savings account. (These two are both a little more serious… I haven’t been very financially secure or confident for most of my twenties, so it is important to me to enter my next decade of life with a bit more money behind me, just in case. On that note…)
  7. Buy a house!
  8. Start a family. (I’m broody as anything – but, following the last few goals, we want to be a bit more financially comfortable before we start having children.)
  9. Visit Italy.
  10. Travel solo for a long weekend. (Either on an organised retreat, or just taking myself away to read and write for a weekend in the countryside.)
  11. Write a novel. (The ultimate dream!)
  12. Go on a spa day with my Mum.
  13. Go on a cookery course.
  14. Make gnocchi from scratch.
  15. Make an entire lasagna from scratch, including the pasta.
  16. Clear all the unnecessary clutter from our house so we only own what’s needed.
  17. Study some more. (I see myself doing some more formal study at some point in the future, most likely in Education and aspects of Child Psychology.)
  18. Put more time and effort into my blog posts and accompanying photos, hopefully growing my audience more.
  19. Eat at Dans le Noir in London. (A restaurant in London I’ve been dying to visit for years!)
  20. Make some kind of income through this blog, through any channel, and any amount.
  21. Have a solid, calming, morning routine in place.
  22. Invite friends round for dinner.
  23. Invite family round for dinner.
  24. Finally finish the cross-stitch map of Westeros that I’ve been working on for five years…
  25. Pay off my car!
  26. Take my sister on holiday somewhere, just us two.
  27. Find the perfect winter coat.
  28. Run a marathon. (I’ve done a half marathon, and I’m going to do another this year. I think it’s about time I progressed on to the full marathon!)
  29. Get the two matching tattoos I want. (One with Mr W, one with my sister.)
  30. Secure some kind of extra responsibility at work.

 

There they are – my 30 before 30!

Are any of these the same as your goals? I would love to see some posts from you guys sharing your list as well.

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How I’m Dealing With Stress

How I’m Currently Dealing With Stress

Spoiler alert – I’m not dealing with it very well!

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I’ll apologise now to anyone who thought that this was going to be a self-help advice post about how to deal with stress or some more self-care advice. Honestly, this is just a bit of a self-indulgent post to help me get my head out on to the page, and to reflect on what my reactions to stress have been recently.

Over the past month, I have not only been trying to get this blog up and running, but I’ve also started my first year as a qualified teacher and had a heck of a lot to think about! On top of a pretty hefty workload, there have been family emergencies and a fresh new batch of anxiety…

So how have I been coping? Let me see…

  • Chocolate
  • Coffee
  • Ugly crying
  • Chocolate
  • Gin
  • Lots of to-do lists
  • Chocolate
  • Chocolate
  • Hot chocolate

Have you noticed a theme?

It’s not been good – let’s be honest – excessive quantities of chocolate and coffee is never the way to get through a tough week! I’m sure my anxiety is worse because of coffee and I’m feeling worse because I know I’ll be putting weight back on that I only recently battled to lose. The only positive thing on that list is my obsessive use of to-do lists to stay on top of things. I’ve been trying to take part in the #SelfCareTogether challenge but I’m honestly struggling to make any time for self-care.

So why am I writing this post? I’m not exactly an inspiration to anyone at the moment!

Maybe I just needed to get things out of my head. Perhaps I was hoping that this would publicly shame me into getting my act together. Honestly, I think I just wanted to say “Hey, we all have those weeks where we want to give up and stay in bed all day. We don’t all deal with it by drinking green tea and doing yoga, and it’s okay to feel like you’re not coping right now.” Hopefully this will resonate with someone and we can all get past these bad days and come out the other side.

Hopefully next week I’ll be feeling a bit more on top of things and I can write a post titled ‘How to deal with stress’!

How do you stay on top of things and start feeling better when things get too much?

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3 Days, 3 Quotes Challenge: Day 3

Today is the third and final day of my 3 days, 3 quotes challenge. So far I have quoted Shakespeare and Stephen King, and today I’m turning a bit more philosophical.

Thank you again to Kelly for tagging me in this challenge. Today I would like to tag Milenka.

RULES

  • Thank the person who nominated you.
  • Post a quote each day for three consecutive days.
  • Nominate three new bloggers a day. (I don’t really know enough bloggers yet to tag 3 people per day, but I’m hoping 3 in total is enough!)

 

Today’s quote:

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

Today, I am sharing this quotation often attributed to Aristotle (turns out, misattributed – see this website for more info!).

The most important part of this quotation to me is the first half. “We are what we repeatedly do.” To me, this means so much. If you consistently act in a generous and kind way, then you are, clearly, a kind and generous person. By contrast, if you repeatedly tell yourself negative things, you are a negative person. Every time you do something, you reaffirm the type of person you are. I find this inspiring, as it is so easy to believe that we are hard-wired in a certain way, but actually all we have to do is change our actions. We can be who we want to be, by doing what we want and need to do.

I’m not sure how much that makes sense, but I find this quote very empowering.

Have a lovely week 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

3 Days, 3 Quotes Challenge: Day 1

The wonderful Kelly over at Paperback Adventures tagged me in this challenge and I am very happy to take part! The idea is to share a quote each day for three days. I think it’s a great way to share inspirational or motivational quotations that I love and hopefully inspire some of you too. 🙂

RULES

  • Thank the person who nominated you.
  • Post a quote each day for three consecutive days.
  • Nominate three new bloggers a day.

 

Today’s quote:

“To thine own self be true” – William Shakespeare

This quotation is from Hamlet and it is actually a tattoo that I have on my forearm. I find it to be an excellent reminder that, ultimately, you are responsible for your own happiness and you have to be true to what your heart is telling you to do. This is a quote I followed with passion when I made a big career change last year and so far, it’s serving me very well! (You can read a little more about my career change in my 26th birthday post.)

 

 

I don’t really know enough bloggers yet to tag 3 people per day, but I’m hoping 3 in total is enough!

Today I tag Ruth, who has helped me start my blogging journey in such a positive way, I’m not sure she even realises how helpful she is! She also started the wonderful Facebook group, Blogging Buddies, which is a great place to get advice if you’re a new blogger like me.